MISCELLANEOUS RAMBLING ABOUT SHOE FETISHES; 

If you are shoes only and don't ever want a partner, please enjoy your fetish, there are great shoes out there and it’s still very very pleasurable, and this site will be great for you.   However, for me, and I encourage others, that with a little effort they will find infinitely more fun and pleasure with your shoe/boot fetish with an open minded partner.  When you find that partner let me share that there is nothing like taking a putting a pair of boots like the Jimmy Choo’s (above) on and then later taking them off of your partners feet, or your own, during an evening of play and doing your partner or having your partner do you with those very same very hot and fragrant designer shoes or boots.  I have found and concluded that indirect fair and gentle fetish play can be incredible for both partners. Even though I can fully enjoy a pair of shoes or boots without my partner, it is much more fun to have my partner do it with and to me.

Cheap advice --- whether you are LGBT – BDSM - straight – or any combination. 

• Golden Rule - Even open minded partners need their needs met.  Always, "ALWAYS", make certain if you have a partner that they get their needs met first, and always with no exceptions.  Even if they just want to surprise you and do you with shoes, trust me in this DON’T, not until you meet their needs.  If you need them so badly wait until your self play time.  Trust me in this you never want your partner to believe that shoes come first if you feel that way, DON’T try to get a partner.  Your partner at times will already be jealous of the shoes, I know it isn’t rationale but that is what will happen. So if you care, think about how you would feel if she didn’t want you but a vibrator, etc.

• Consider not forcing or dominating your partners with your shoe/boot preferences. 

• Consider letting your partners know early that you enjoy bringing shoes into your sex lives and that you have a shoe fetish so you won't hurt your relationship later. 

• Find out early if your partner has an open mind, consider not surprising or forcing your fetish on them.  

• There will always those who will totally reject your fetish, as well as, other forms of open minded sex play and sexuality. 

• I consider a closed mind as their problem and my view is why start a closed ended relationship. 

• It is not fair to anyone for you to keep this secret only to surprise and hurt your relationship later.  No loving partner deserves that!!!

• Last, there are plenty of places to buy used shoes, I have over 300 pairs not one of them was stolen.  Trust me in this too, you don’t., I repeat DON’T, want to get them from anyone that will make your partner jealous. I suggest EBAY, almost everyone is unknown.  

• Also I am not concerned if someone finds out I have a fetish or a collection. Remember my earlier phrase --- Yes, I have a shoe fetish and "really" so what !!!   

• There is no crime in having or doing any pair of shoes or boots you own. - when anyone treats a shoe fetishist as a criminal in most cases it is absurd.  

• But -- "Don't ever steal them" a pair of stolen Jimmy Choo's is valued high enough that "it's a felony" - there are no designer shoes in prison and that is criminal. 

• When you get enough confidence in your fetish you can shop at resale stores, garage sales, buy on EBay (thousands of choices in every brand but not cheap), go to Amazon, or buy them in your size by shopping on the internet, etc., braver yet try garage sales you will know who your buying them from - but the fun is in almost every case they won't know what you’re going to do with them and if they figure it out, so what !!!.  For garage sales if it makes you more comfortable buy them in other neighborhoods. 

I have found that there is plenty of room to have, and to share, a shoe fetish with open minded partners.   It is amazing, a couple with an open mind, a little adventure, and some sexy lingerie/underwear and nice new sexy pair of shoes or boots can become the sex toys that add that special spark to any long term relationship.  Are shoe/boot fetishists more sexually active?  As time goes, my maturity and techniques that include my open minded and now very receptive partner have expanded.  I can only speak for myself, the answer is yes, and it seems so.  My partner and I hear of many couples whose sex lives include once or twice a month.  To this we consider and laugh, we conclude that everyone needs to find toys they can share to add excitement.  In our lives things may appear a little kinky, but oh my goodness seeing my best friend and partner wear the shoes of my dreams is incredible.  In our situation things have stayed hot and exciting for years.  I can only note that for us, a new pair of, perhaps a bit too expensive, designer shoes or boots have kept the excitement high and it is still 3 or 4 times per week.  

In answer to the next question, do I do shoes without my partner?  Let me be very clear --- YES, and OFTEN when my partner doesn’t want to do anything, and YES we have discussed this (which is fair) and my partner is OK with it. Why is my partner OK with it?  Because my fetish is in the open and we make certain that our relationship provides for each other’s passions, needs, and desires?  Does my partner use shoes when alone?  The answer is, I don't know?  My partner will tell me when and if they want to. 

Whether you are straight, gay, lesbian, TS, or just love lots of sex toys and the many forms of sex play and masturbation and you find all acceptable as much of modern society does today, and now you are able to add to that list the gentle deviations – e.g. -shoe and boot fetish play. Then perhaps, we are for you   If asked, “So, you like going shoe shopping with your partner, it seems strange a guy knows what Jimmy Choo Peony, Rose, and Daisy boots are and the various heel heights.  Do you have a shoe fetish or something?”   My answer is YES, aren’t they great, looking at these who wouldn’t?  These boots are very very sexy and erotic just as they are displayed and they look even better worn by my partner.?   Then she tries on a pair of knee high 3 ½ inch heel black kid skin leather Jimmy Choo Peony boots – my partner slides one foot in and then gently lifts her leg and zips the back zipper up over her calves – then the other and gets up to walk toward a mirror – nothing against Nine West, they look good, sometimes, but Jimmy Choo's are in a whole different designer class – so hot they can burn your eyes just to look at them and they can put a solid bulge in response. – then hopefully my partner buys, or lets me buy them. – Very hot, Very Erotic, and very exciting!  As they get worn they get even hotter over time. 

I would agree even today with open gay/lesbian rights that for some we still live in a world where stories and discussions about having a shoe fetish continues to have the stigma that the gay lesbian community once had long ago.  As some have noticed in these pages.  Some of those men and women with a shoe/boot fetish are beginning to accept their passion and preferences and are trying to get “out of the closet”.  Don't be surprised if most of them can do just fine in a partner relationship as well.

Interestingly, shoe fetishists have a very low adultery rate --- Consider men with a shoe fetish buy shoes, they don't look for other partners, just their shoes.  We do live in a very interesting world --- keep an open mind.---- srotoys@gmail.com