If all your partner needed
to do was to
put on a pair of sexy boots
or wear incredible high heels
& just maybe
some nice lingerie
to get more sexual activity,
2-3 times per week, or more
We are not talking about the exciting stage of a new love,
no, no, no
we are discussing the
life & times of
a social shoe fetishist
maybe even 20 years
or more later,
with the same partner!!!
The Shoe fetish and Boot fetish web site is not for everyone, but it is a free place to bring your shoe fetish passion, discussions, and stories out of the closet and into the light of day ---
Thank you so much for your shared interest, and for some, your curiosity about shoe and boot fetishes.
This site writes about what it know best and focuses research on women and their shoes and men and women and their shoe fetish.
This site is not trying to conclude that this concept of sexuality doesn't apply to both sexes and any number of combinations of sexes in both the fetish, straight, and LGBT and BDSM communities this sites research, data, and cases touch on some cases in almost all areas. Some of the cases posted here were taken from years of communication with people with shoe fetishes.
The cases & this sites notes are their views, stories, & perspectives, and yes sometimes slightly re-written to correct not all but some grammar and spelling errors and for really poor writers, to make them legible and interesting. In some sections this site shares some of our and our contributors comments, points of view, and views the collected research on this topic, as well as many personal shoe fetish experiences.
A very limited statistic that this site has found is that perhaps there may be well over +/-375,000 male shoe and boot fetishists in the U.S.A. alone. Another interesting stat is that there may be 10 to 20 times more that are foot fetishists, and who knows what other preferences could be considered. That Stat. does not count women or the rest of the world population. Knowing that the shoe fetish is an, "In The Closet Secret Fetish" for most, there may be so many more who would never even respond to any survey or research. That number of people in the U.S.A. alone makes having a shoe fetish newsgroup an important place for many, most of which are still, as they say, "In the Closet". To share stories and discussions in a world where having a shoe fetish continues to have the stigma that the gay lesbian community once had long ago. Make no mistake about it there are those who will call this sick and perverted. After over 25 years of considering this and looking at all forms of sexual behavior, this site has concluded if consenting adults, who do no harm to others, find this pleasurable than the narrow minded of those around us can just move on to another web site.
By the way there is no cure for sexual preferences, and whether you are a shoe fetishist, a boot fetishist, or any other preference in or out of the LGBT, BDSM, straight, or fetish community, "Get over it already", you are who you are accept it and adjust.
SHOE FETISISTS HAVE MORE SEX !!!
That's for real !!!
It is time for those with a shoe/boot fetish to accept themselves and their passion and preferences, and ignore what the clearly jealous and undersexed world thinks, and get "Out of the Closet" and live your life. Today there are way too many couples who are lucky if they have sex once every two weeks or so. They are bored to death with each other and the passion is gone. Many partners known to this site with a shoe fetish partner
have sex 2 to 3 times a week today
and for decades and the passion and fetish has acted like an incredible spice
that keeps things exciting and alive for both of us.
If all your partner needed to do was put on a pair of sexy boots or heels and maybe some nice lingerie to get the sexual excitement level up to where it was the first year,
or activity up to 2-3 times per week wouldn't she?
Who says there are no open minded people to share your life's passion with? Nonsense!!! That is up to you and an open minded partner. The secret is simple; If you can actually love someone else
Take care of their needs
foremost, and before yourself then the world of erotic pleasure can open to you. If you can't think the other person first than you can almost plan on the curse and nightmare of being alone.
Remember, not everyone in this world can handle shoe fetish play, and interesting varieties of sexuality of any kind so when you meet someone who hates the idea, well just move on. You have to because you will never change who you are, nor will you change who they are, so be honest, and up front that you have a fetish. It doesn't mean you have to blurt out every detail the day you meet but once it starts getting intimate and until you know someone better, you probably need to know right away whether or not that it isn't an automatic turn off for them.
However, there are many who just love to play and experiment and don't mind this gentle fetish, some even have partners you might find are already excited about this fetish and if you use wisdom, patience, and real love in your relationships, well the world can be an incredible place. At least sexually. This is why this site finally decided to bring the shoe fetish
"Out of The Closet"
& available to the world.
More with just a little repetition;
This site is dedicated to the gentle and more socially inclusive side of shoe fetish behavior.
Sure a shoe fetishist might use shoes and boots at times, and almost every human understands self play. Many play with themselves in many unusual ways at times and many are interesting, but, many prefer shoe play with a lover, and for some they prefer alone. Either way the people who contribute to this site with a shoe fetish know, shoes can feel more like real sex than a hand. In many minds shoes are the end to masturbation as we know it today for many.
Too many researchers that write about fetish behavior rarely include or consider the shoe fetish as a mutually acceptable and mutually pleasurable bedroom behavior for a couple. It is interesting when a designer shoe shopping woman with a secret passion for a lot of erotic shoes and a little more than a shopping interest meets a designer shoe fetish male or female with an incredible complimentary sexual passion.
In my notes are numerous stories of patience and heightened arousal and the desire to please a partner which has lead some to become a Master at oral sex. It seems there is no greater oral sex than when you are giving oral sex to a woman and you are so excited and aroused that passion is felt in every muscle of her body. This skill, it is claimed, has at times not only satisfied all of a woman's desires but in places where women talk with each other has created a very high demand to want to be with people of a higher activity nature. Don't read these notes incorrectly, I think women love intercourse too, but often they enjoy great oral sex which is so hard to find and to my amazement, in great demand and there are ways to include shoes in your oral sex play.
Our thanks to the many of the men in the world who have gotten bored and can't give love as well as they can take it. That perhaps is why some women can easily enjoy sex with other women. they are bored and don't accept that the frequency of sex must decline over the years. It does not!
Of course a shoe fetish is not for everyone and if you have a shoe fetish you already know, for better or worse, that you're one of the chosen ones. No matter what you do it's going to be with you for life. So again accept it and learn how to enjoy it. The web site dedicates itself to making certain you live your life and our goal is socially integrated and not alone. I assure you with the right open minded partner it can, and has been, at least for many, one of life's great gifts.
The Golden Key -- if you respect each others needs and always take care of your partner first then what follows can be a great experience for both of you.
It all depends on your partner, are they open minded enough? Then next it is on you, whether or not you really care about them enough to really love them or if you care more about their shoes, how much time you take making love, how romantic the setting is, and then what you do next and how you do it.
You may really love shoes but SORRY !!! If you are going to be an "I only want your shoes" and "I'm a macho into myself first kind of person" -- well frankly go buy your shoes at a thrift store or on EBAY !!! If you're "me first" your probably never going to have a partner, or keep one, and you are probably already in a lonely place on the dark side of the shoe fetish. Many who respond well to this site don't want to be alone and they don't have to be.
As for those who can have a partner accept who you are and as Tim Gunn says, "MAKE IT WORK" !!! Don't let your partner convince you that you can get over your fetish and be cured. It's like being gay, you can't get over it. Your fetish. like being gay. was a choice made in your mind long ago before you were sexually active. Accept it. Your life will be better for it.
Many who visit this site have a mild side of this fetish and couldn't imagine not having a partner or a woman to share all types of sex as well as their shoes with. After all if you can love, that's really love a partner or a woman consider the bonus, if they have an open mind they will love you back and you will also have a never ending stream of well worn used shoes because most partners probably won't want sex 7 days a week, and if they are incredible, they will also accept your collection, if you have one and your excited trips to visit that collection on occasion.
Many, if not most who can have a collection of shoes.
This site contains mostly gentle passionate consensual shoe fetish & some mildly mutual dominance. The dark side of this or any behavior will be left to others. There will be No theft - buy your used shoes. No - wet, messy, or destructive activities - that's for someone else, No - heavy BDSM fetish behavior that too is for others. NO - under the age of 21 of anything - no people, no fetishes, - no nothing, if your under 21 EXIT THIS SITE NOW !!! This is a mature adult site for consenting adults to consider, love or hate, but to learn other views on the shoe fetish.
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