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General Information
The basic idea of a sexual fetish is the sexual arousal and satisfaction through an inanimate object, the fetish. The most common sexual fetish is foot fetish, as well as shoe fetish including Women's Boots fetish.
Causes of Sexual Fetish
- Psychoanalysists theorize that an individual with a paraphilia is repeating or reverting to a sexual habit that arose early in life. They believe these usually relate to early childhood experience, which involves a psychological or psychosexual catalyst. Certain individuals discover pleasure and gratification as a coping mechanism to deal with stress. The memory becomes a fixation until it converts into repetitive behavior.
- Behaviorists suggest paraphilia begins through a process of conditioning, e.g. non-sexual objects can be associated with intense sexual pleasure and if repeated often enough can result in the person preferring these circumstances to normal contact.
However, according to people with certain fetish themselves, the above two explanations do not fully explain why they have certain fetish. Therefore, more research is need for discover the causes of certain sexual fetish.
Diagnosis of Sexual Fetish
The diagnostic criteria for a certain sexual fetish are as follows:
* Unusual sexual fantasies, drives or behavior occur over a time span of at least six months. Sometimes unusual sexual fantasies occur and vanish by themselves; in this case any medical treatment is not necessary.
* The affected person, her object or another person experience impairment or distress in multiple functional areas. Functional area refers to different aspects of life such as private social contacts, job, etc. It is sufficient for the diagnosis if one of the participants is being hurt or mistreated in any other way.
Treatment of Sexual Fetish
There are two possible treatments for fetishism: cognitive therapy and psychoanalysis. Both may be supported by an additional medicinal treatment.
Cognitive therapy
Cognitive therapy seeks to change the patient's behavior without analyzing how and why it shows up. It is based on the idea that fetishism is the result of conditioning or imprinting. The therapy is not able to change the patient's sexual preference itself but can only suppress the resulting unwanted behavior.
One possible therapy is aversive conditioning: the patient is being confronted with his fetish and as soon as sexual arousal starts, exposed to a displeasing stimulus. It is reported that in earlier times painful stimuli such as electric shocks have been used as aversive stimulus. Today a common aversive stimulus are photographs that show unpleasing scenes such as penned in genitals. In a variant called assisted aversive conditioning, an assistant releases abominable odors as aversive stimulus.
Another possible therapy is a technique called thought stop: the therapist asks the patient to think of his fetish and suddenly cries out "stop!". The patient will be irritated, his line of thought broken. After analyzing the effects of the sudden break together, the therapist will teach the patient to use this technique by himself to interrupt thoughts about his fetish and thus prevent undesired behavior.
Psychoanalysis
Psychoanalysis tries to spot the traumatic unconscious experience that caused the fetishism in first instance. Bringing this unconscious knowledge to conscience and thus enabling the patient to work up his trauma rationally and emotionally shall relieve the him from his problems. As opposed to cognitive therapy, psychoanalysis tackles the cause itself.
There are versatile attempts at this analyzing process, including talk therapy, dream analysis and play therapy. Which method will be chosen depends upon the problem itself, the patient's attitude and reactions to certain methods and the therapist's education and preference.
Strictly speaking, in psychoanalysis a fetish is the last thing a small boy sees before discovering that women do not have a penis. The erotic excitement of a boy's first observation of a girl or woman undressing becomes traumatic when he discovers that castration is a real threat after all. What had become increasing arousal is suddenly turned to horror. The child then fixates on the moment of heightened arousal just before the trauma. This is usually an undergarment or feet, but it could be anything.
In the strictest definition, secondary sexual displays--such as breasts and buttocks--cannot be considered fetishes.
Medication
Medicinal treatment comprises various forms of drugs that inhibit the production of sex steroids, above all male testosterone and female estrogen. By cutting the level of sex steroids, sexual desire is diminished. Thus, the patient gains the ability to concentrate on his fetish and reasonably process his own thoughts without being distracted by sexual arousal. Also, the application may give the patient relief in every day's life, enabling him to ignore his fetish and get back to daily routine.
Although ongoing research has shown positive results in single case studies with some drugs, e. g. with topiramate, there is not yet any medicament that tackles fetishism itself. Because of that, physical treatment is only suitable to support one of the psychological methods.
Surgery
In few cases, brain surgery has turned out to be a remedy for fetishism. It must be noted, however, that these surgical engagements were always due to other diagnosis like epilepsy and the relief of fetishism was a mere side effect. Though some consider brain construction a possible cause for fetishism, surgery is never considered a possible treatment.
Foot Fetish (Feet Fetish)
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Shoe Fetish
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Foot fetish is a kind of sexual fetish resulting in the sexual arousal or sexual satisfaction through foot, or feet.
Foot fetish normally occur in males who are aroused by women's feet. The preferences of foot fetishist vary. Some crave big giantess feet, though most go for small and dainty. Some like dirty feet, though most prefer clean. Some like feet of a particular race, tanned feet, athletic feet, high arches, polished toe nails, high heels, leather boots, sandals, stockings, toe cleavage or toe rings. Some adore massaging, pampering and pedicuring feet. Others want to be walked on. There are foot-lickers, toe-suckers, heel-sniffers, arch-ticklers and Imelda Marcos types just into shoes. Some go for stockings, often relishing the powerful aroma of just-worn nylons. Some couples do 69, but instead of having oral sex, they suck each other's toes. Some guys love to masturbate against a woman's foot, or use her big toe like a butt plug. Others are into foot bondage; they like to tie feet up and torture or tickle them.
Causes of Foot Fetish
Typically, foot fetish begins in early childhood. As a toddler toddles and crawls, exploring the world, feet are often the first part of the mother that he encounters. There is a theory that says that if a mother doesn't pick up and hold a child very often, his main physical contact with her will be with her feet; thus, he is more likely to develop a foot fetish or a shoe fetish.
According to Brame, Brame & Jacobs (1996) most of the fetishists they interviewed, who listed foot fetishism as an interest, recalled an erotic encounter with feet in childhood i.e. crawling near an adults foot and feeling pleasantly stimulated, using parent's shoes as playthings, being tickled or nudged or trod on by a parent or other child. Most of those interviewed admitted to have had pre-existing desires or attractions. Fetishists reported being attracted to specific shoe styles some not available during their childhood which led the authors to consider the precise source of excitement may be amenable to change. The causes of fetishism are however likely to be complex or at least, multifactorial. Whatever the cause, paraphiliacs seldom seek treatment and in many cases the individual derives such immense pleasure that giving it up would be unthinkable. When the combination of drug therapy and cognitive behavior therapy (Kafka, 1996; Bender, 1998).
References:
Bender K J 1998 New prescription for paraphilia Psychiatric Times 15:4
Brame GG, Brame WD & Jacobs J (1996) Different loving: the world of sexual dominance and submission London:Arrow
Kafka M P 1996 Therapy of sexual impulsivity: the paraphilias and paraphilia-related disorders Psychiatric Times 13:6
Shoe Fetish
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Shoe fetish is a kind of sexual fetish resulting in the sexual arousal or sexual satisfaction through shoes, normally women's shoes such as Women's Boots or Women's Sneakers
People who have shoe fetish often fixate on extreme shoes which are designed as fetish wear, although fixation on typical high-street shoes, or other types of shoes, is also common. High-heeled shoes are often triggers for foot fetishists. High-heeled shoes or women's boots help to elongate the calf, protruding the buttocks and creating a longer-legged appearance which is generally considered to be more sexually attractive. They also reveal the sole of the shoe, which becomes an eroticized "second skin" taking on the erotic role of the sole of the foot. Shoe fetishists often fixate on stiletto heeled shoes and boots, where the stiletto heel is eroticized in itself.
A fetish for shoes tends to be conditioned in early childhood or adolescence, just like the fetish for feet and most other things.. By the way, the shoe fetish is not limited to humans. At least one male chimpanzee raised in captivity developed a bit of a shoe fetish, masturbating obsessively by rubbing his caretaker's leather boot.
The most common image of a dominatrix is of a woman in thigh-length high-heeled leather boots or riding boots. Thigh-length high-heeled leather boots are generally only worn as fetish wear; though they have experienced some popularity amongst fashionable young women for clubbing over the past two years, particularly in the UK and were also briefly popular there in the late 1960's.
High heels are the another fetishized type of shoe. Submissive men find the extremely spiked heel menacingly arousing, like a lethal feminine weapon. Sadomasochistic pictorials often show a woman's stiletto resting on the neck or genitals of a submissive male. A shoe slave might adore the smell of the leather shoe mixed with a woman's foot smell. He might crave being humiliated by having a shoe strapped around his face or a high heel "force" into his anus.
Women's Boots
Women's Boots
Women's boots are closely related to shoe fetishism. In most cases the fetish of the women's boot is accompanied by a fetish for the material which it is made from. Examples could be women's leather boots. High-heeled women's boots help to elongate the calf, creating a longer-legged appearance which is generally considered to be more sexually attractive.
There are many potential turn-ons that could arise from women's boots. For example, the AK Anne Klein Women's Mead Boots or other similar boots would give a turn-on for submissive males.
Usually the action of the wearer's legs provide many of arousals boot fetishists have. For instance, slowing crossing the legs after being seated or small subtle movements of the booted legs can provide for a visual stimulus. In cases of women's leather boots, the leather itself can be very reflective and glossy and create further visual appeals. The heels of the boots can also provide sexual appeal, the most common sexual heel being the stiletto heel. The soles of women's boots are attractive as well.
In female domination, male submissives tend to believe that women's boots is a symbol for the female domination power, in the sense that the boots protect females ankles and foot, preventing male submissives to be able to have physical contact with the woman's skin.
Also, women's boots are frequently worn in combination with short skirts, making male submissives to fantasize the female sex, but denying them the opportunity of getting close to the woman because of the power of women's boots.