Men are usually obsessed with women wearing high heels so shoes are among the most common fetishes. Women can feel the same way about shoes too, but the majority shoe fetishists remain among men. The appearance of the shoe is all that matters i.e. the pointed heel and toe or the length of shaft of the boots. Some people suggest shoe fetishism mainly because shoes are in proximity to leg which obviously leads to the private area. Some people know it is because they can climb on top of a sexy shoe, or insert the pointed toe into their vagina and make total love to it with or without the wearer. 

I suggest a nice silicone lubricant or a fem stimulant gel will ease the potential friction.  For used shoes you might consider cleaning them?

SHOE FETISH -- Anyone know how a shoe fetish gets started? 

In this section I used Havelock Ellis’s Psychology of Sex as a starting point for my debate.  It too was written in 1933 and perhaps even a bit more open, but it lacks a well rounded modern view. 

Once again as we move forward we are reminded that once upon a time it was immediately considered that if you followed a different pattern in your sex life that you were probably not normal.  Much was assumed abnormal and sexuality was never really discussed openly even in Krafft Ebbings day.  

At that time no one really even discussed or defined what normal was.  Life just went along openly ignoring most of normal sexual behavior.  Today we know there are many differing patterns that make up our world sexual reality.

It seems that today if the end result of the sex pattern, no  matter how varied, remains ultimately procreation the sex pattern probably remains within the normal range. Interpreted what this means is that for every fetishist that can go on to include normal sexual functioning, along with the occasional shoe play, these individuals probably remain on the sides of normal activity, but within the normal range because the end result, although, occasionally distracted, remains the continuation of life.   However these distractions remain true for both men and women from all aspects of sex play from oral sex to masturbation.   In all fairness, we might consider the shoe fetishist who remains totally outside of procreative activity, or that chooses to lack active human sexual contact and who appears to only find interest in the fetish item and total exclusion from any procreative activity. It is my hypothesis, once again it may be, that the reason for this solitary behavior probably includes additional  conditions which should be searched out besides just a joy and pleasure from any fetish or other sexual patterned behavior from a psychological perspective. 

Although the term deviation is avoided today, it probably is not necessary to do so.  Perhaps the new terms such as displacement are probably more politically kind, but they may not be as accurate and may not fit fetish behavior. If the term unusual fixation is applied to the shoe fetishist, which the fetish person does do.  It may be because to them it is erotic, sexually exciting, and did anyone ever consider that it may simply be  because it just feels good?  I suspect that we may then deserve to challenge in the same way and can make the case that regular masturbation is an unusual fixation.  I actually do not believe either are an unusual behavior because both feel good and are a way to release sexual tension in times of need.  I would further note that the total exclusion of a partner and a reliance totally on self-gratification in any case would probably not fit within this same range of normal terms and might  ignite a greater concern and a quest to find other issues in the persons behavior that lead to an isolation behavior.   

Ellis notes fairly that the things that a child learns to do as they form their adult sexual patterns can persist as an adult in the form of play that leads to procreative sex. As a child the experimentation later gives away to adult sexuality and intercourse.   In my view, this statement can easily include the quite interesting and varied forms of fetish behavior, and there is no reason it couldn’t include the shoe fetish because in many cases shoe fetish play can be used as an enhancing foreplay to intercourse, or a stimulant for a second round of orgasms.

Certainly from time to time an individual may also choose to just play with shoes as a side activity, but if the end result is generally procreative activity, there would once again appear to be much scientific review and research about not much at all.  Or put another way, much ado about nothing.   I caution that what Ellis refers to as defects should probably be considered and reviewed carefully, some may not be defects at all but alternate

forms of play.

Havelock Ellis goes on to discuss symbols of what a fetish represents, I suggest once again it is much ado about nothing, the shoe perhaps doesn’t represent the woman, or perhaps it does as a tool for excitement and pleasure, although it is an erotic article of clothing, and is related to as an enhanced object of desire, so what.  When people stop masturbating then fetish behavior in itself could probably be considered a concern.  However, as long as people search for the best way to find simple pleasure, personal relief, and alternatives that enhance or accentuate procreative activities I see little issue with shoe play.  In addition, when shoe play is used for fun and pleasure and not as an anti social, masochistic, or sadistic release, and when it does not involve illegal or harmful behaviors I am frustrated when I see this issue arise negatively just because someone may be enjoying getting inside of an occasional pair of erotic shoes, or even inside a lot of erotic shoes.

The good news is that more and more shows on video and television are including more foot fetish play, and what appears to touch on shoe play.   I expect the day will come when shoe play is out of the closet and mainstream as a sexual foreplay activity for more people.  

Shoe Fetish beginnings

CASE #5  -- A Shoe Fetish Starts Here?

I don't really remember when I first came in a high heeled shoe

I Don't Really Remember When:

I don't really remember when I first came in a high heeled shoe.

Ever since I was a young boy I have loved the look of them, stiletto heels just drove me wild. I used to sit in Math class and we had a teacher that always wore heels, and I would sit with my legs up on the chair and rub my member against the table while looking at her in heels.

It wasn't until a little later on that I actually bought a pair for playing with. They were soft kidskin black leather style 3"heels and very soft and well worn. I would caress the heel and lick it and press it against my member while masturbating.

Then for some reason I felt like I just wanted to be 'inside' the shoe so I would put my member inside and lay flat on my chest and just grind away against the shoe. It wasn't long before I was cumming inside and it felt so great. I then bought another pair, a slightly more elegant shoe, 4" heel and a harder, firmer shoe but still in the only style I loved - the designer heels. Sandals never seemed to do it for me and still don't.

So there I would be, at home surrounded by heeled shoes that I would push my member in to cum inside them.

Then I one day I decided to secure an open toe high heel for my collection as a new part of the original pointed toe high heel collection, and I placed the toe part toward me on top of the heel  part of one of the other shoes. The elevation of the heel made fucking the shoe incredible.  I then pushed my member as deep into the cut out toe part as I could and it gripped around my member so it was slightly hurting, but in a good way.  I would then cum like that time after time every day as I screwed the heels, licking another one as I screwed deep into the shoe. Now I have another new addition to my collection a little softer with a deeper toe area and I cum in them regularly and wouldn't .let them go for the world.

I have got my girlfriend to understand what I need from this 'fetish' and she helps me by holding the shoe for me and helps me to screw them and sometimes she kisses the shoes and rubs the shoe against herself to get off as well pushing the toe of a very pointed pair with a lot of gel inside her pussy while I am on my back and we both have sex with the shoe. I don't think you can beat the feeling of grinding your member against the inside of a shoe and exploding all over the inside...

I Really DO Remember When

I remember the first time I had sex with a shoe.

Ever since I was in about third grade I developed an attraction to shoes.  One of my good friends used to joke about women’s shoes foot odors and shoe odors and for some reason it just stuck.

I began to look at shoes and one day I started playing in my mother’s closet when she was not home.  I tried on her shoes and I was smelling them.  I am not certain what it was about the smell but it locked into my mind and I started searching that smell out.  Later I discovered because the smell of the foot fixated on high quality leather smells a lot like women’s sexual odors.

As the years went by I kept on trying on the shoes and playing with them and smelling their familiar fragrance.  Eventually they didn’t fit any more.   Then as time went by my body started to change and I used to sit in class and most of the women teachers at the time wore high heels. Like the story above I was forced to sit with my legs up on the chair and push my member down to prevent the hardness form embarrassing me.

Sure, it was getting hard but at that point I had no clue as to what that meant or why it was hard. It would take a lot longer to figure that out.  However, it didn’t take long until I grabbed up all of the old worn heels form the basement and collected them in my room.   Most like the other story were soft kidskin black leather style 3"heels and very soft and well worn.  At the time I would place the heels by my face and just smell them.  Nothing else.   Doing this made me hard, but I still never even considered what to do next.  So, I kept smelling the shoe.

Then for some reason I felt like I just wanted to have my hands free to touch and move the other shoes so with laces I would tie the heel with my face buried in the shoe over my face.  At that point I still did not much more than smell the shoe.  However, one day I found a box of very well worn dancing shoes and took them to my room.  There was a pair of very sexy ballerina shoes had long ribbon ties.  I tied it over my face and loved the smell.  However, after a few days I considered my hardness and the ribboned tie dance shoe and lowered my pants and placed the shoe over my stiff member wrapped the ribbon tight over my member with my member stiff inside of the shoe.  Laying back with a shoe over my face and one tied to my hard member, it felt great so I continued to do it, but nothing still happened.

Then one day with my stiff member 'inside' the shoe I was very hard and wanted to reach and surround myself with more of the shoes so I laid on my stomach to reach the shoes on the floor.  In doing so my hard member rushed to the tip of the shoe and as I moved I was sliding my member in and out.  I had no clue what it would do at that point but it felt good so I continued to move inside the shoe. 

It wasn't long before a very strange pressure began to build and the first few times I just stopped and nothing happened.  Though that first day started a new direction, I started moving my member inside of the shoe.  Then one day I tried this again and I turned over on my stomach with the shoe under me.   When the pressure built I could feel it was different, and in a while the feelings were overwhelming and I felt my stiff member move deeper into the shoe.  I didn’t take much longer for my first experience to occur.  I pulsed with my muscle spasm, I didn’t know what was happening but it felt great, I was pulsing and Cumming inside of the shoe and it was incredible.

It didn’t take long until I began to want to do shoes every day.   So there I would be, at home surrounded by shoes that I would push my member into them and cum inside them. The rest became history for me..