telling another about your fetish
Sharing your fetish:  Do it early but patiently.  If handled badly or with the wrong person it could end a great relationship.  Let me also note, don't even think this is something you can hide -- to some closed minded or low thinking people feet and shoes are disgusting. 

How to Admit to a Foot/Shoe Fetish

Two Methods: Laying the Groundwork Admitting to Your Foot/Shoe Fetish Don't be embarrassed about having a thing for your partner's sexy, alluring feet and shoes. There's a way to tell your special someone about your foot/shoe fetish without causing a sensation. If you want to know how to fess up about your love for feet and shoes, just follow these easy steps.


Laying the Groundwork

•            Don't fess up right away. If you want your partner to be okay with your foot/shoe fetish, then the worst thing you can do is blurt it out right away. If you're just in the middle of your first date, or even kissing for the first time, saying, "I have a foot/shoe fetish!" is likely to turn your night in the wrong direction. If you want to tell your partner about your foot/shoe fetish and get the best results, then you have to wait for the perfect time -- when you know each other a little better.  BUT DON'T WAIT TOO LONG!

o            Ideally, you should wait until you have a sexual experience before you discuss your foot/shoe fetish. Otherwise, it may be too much, too soon.

o            On the other hand, you don't want to wait too long -- if you walk down the aisle before admitting your lifelong obsession with feet, then you may run in to some serious trouble.


•            Start touching your partner's feet and shoes when you're ready. Once you've gotten more comfortable with your partner, it's time to test the waters. If you've found yourself in bed are in various degrees of undress, you can try kissing your partner's stomach, legs, and then move your way down to the feet. Don't go straight for the feet or you may freak your partner out. You can also just start touching your partner's feet if you're watching TV and you want to give him or her a sexy foot or shoe massage.

o            Don't start licking or sucking on your partner's feet or shoes yet -- this may be too much too soon as well.


•            See how he or she reacts. How does your lady or man react when you go for the feet and shoes? Do hear murmurs of approval, the occasional, "Oh, that feels good," and see a nice relaxed smile on his or her face? If so, then things are moving in the right direction. If your partner pulls away, or even outright says he or she doesn't like it when you touch his or her feet or shoes, then it's time to abort the mission.

o            If your partner reacts negatively, don't be discouraged. You may still be able to turn things around. However, this does mean that you shouldn't go for the feet or shoes again until you have the big talk.

o            If it doesn’t work out don’t be afraid to move on early because your fetish will never go away.


•            If your partner reacts positively, compliment his or her feet or shoes. Don't go overboard -- just say, "You have such sexy feet," or "I just love your shoes they look great on you." Don't make it sound like a fetish yet -- just tell your partner that he or she specifically has amazing feet and great taste in shoes. This will make it easier for your partner to swallow the news than if you flat-out stated that you categorically love all feet and shoes before paying special attention to your partner's feet and shoes.

o            Additionally, if you're a guy, and really feel like you need to mention her feet and shoes, you can compliment her about it when you're having a night out. You can say, "Your feet look great in those shoes." But don't overdo it, or little will she know, you have a foot/shoe fetish and think you only like her for her feet and shoes.

Admitting to Your Foot/shoe Fetish

•            Pick the right time to do it. When is the right time to admit to a foot/shoe fetish? There's no golden rule, but you probably should not do it in the middle of a hook-up. Instead, pick a time when you and your special someone are hanging out and feeling good about each other -- while having some privacy. You can tell your girl or guy when you're back at your place and you think you may be close to hooking up again.

o            Fessing up in the middle of hooking up or cuddling may give you a reaction you may not be ready for, and can interrupt the mood (though not ruin it for good!).

•            Act a little nervous. Though your foot/shoe fetish may be something you've had for years and seems perfectly normal to you, you should be considerate of your partner. Sure, you think feet and shoes are hot -- plenty of people share your feelings. However, to a person without a foot/shoe fetish, this news will seem a bit unexpected, so you shouldn't just drop this comment like you're announcing that you think it's about to rain.

o            Say, "There's something I have to tell you..." and let your partner see that you have something important to say so you get his or her attention.

o            Don't act too nervous or your partner will be nervous too. Just act nervous enough that your partner will see that you really care about what she thinks.


•            At the right time -- Spit it out. Be honest. Just say, "Hey, I have a thing for feet and shoes." Or, "I want you to know that I have a foot/shoe fetish." That's it. There's no need to say why, or how long you've had it, or how much you love sexy, sexy, feet. Just tell your partner, let it out, and feel the relief of finally fessing up flood over you. Make eye contact, look at his or her face, and wait for a reaction.

o            If you hear nothing, you can ask, "What do you think?" But generally, it's a good idea to give your partner some time to process the news.


•            React appropriately to your partner's feelings. There are a few ways that this news can be taken. The best case scenario is if your partner says, "Really? That's kinky. I don't mind at all!" However, it's more likely that your partner will want more information or won't quite know how to react. The worst case scenario is if your partner is completely not accepting of your fetish and thinks that feet are completely gross. You've said your piece, though, and now it's time to be mature and to deal with your partner's reaction in a calm and adult fashion. Whatever happens, you should be proud of yourself for being honest.

o            If your partner accepts your foot/shoe fetish on the spot, great. Prepare for a night of kinky fun.

o            If your partner needs some time to deal with it, take things slow. Don't try to touch his or her feet and shoes too much during your next kissing session -- wait for your partner to give you the green light.

o            If your partner is just flat-out not into it, then there's no need do not try to force it. After all life is short and you have a foot/shoe fetish. Now, it's up to you to decide if you can handle a relationship that doesn't allow you to indulge your foot/shoe fetish. There is also a chance that over time they will warm up to it and become curious after awhile.  However, from experience that is not a reality for most people.

I find the older I get the more I am comfortable with and now I fully love my shoe fetish.  

Like many men here at first it was a concern as a child b4 teens finding shoes b4 women and loving them. For years I was terribly embarrassed and maybe a bit concerned by my passion for shoes and later boots.  I found and was having sex with shoes before I found women.  Sometimes I'd walk in a woman's shoe store and if the display was hot I'd get an erection on the spot.  I was embarrassed seeing shoes on display because to me looking back they were vaginas waiting for someone to have sex with 

Yes I later also found and love women and found I could somewhat separate the two.  Over many years my passion has grown and my self confidence as well in admitting my passion and controlling my fetish until a time I was alone or with a partner that didn't mind it.  I searched for partners that did not mind my shoe fetish making my life complete.  Yes there were many but you had to move very slow and carefully so as not to make them think all you wanted was their shoes.

Now if I find a used pair of sexy shoes my partner  will wear them for me and make me play with them and if I did well with her she would take them off and make me do them.  Could a guy with a fetish ask for anything more?  Yes, occasionally she will use them to stimulate herself to orgasm.  Talk about real excitement.

So in conclusion I no longer find my shoe fetish so far out which allows me to accept and enjoy who I really am. 

An e-mail from TDG

My life in sex: the man with a shoe fetish

I have no interest in wearing heels, or any women’s clothing. But I like to handle them