Is a shoe fetish masturbation?
When you get down to the core of reality it seems that the only sex that is not masturbation is probably procreative sex which can result in new life. That is simply a man and a woman joined in procreative sex. If this definition holds true then that makes everything else either masturbation or a form of mutual masturbation.
I think a few populations might not agree with this, but, if this was the only fact considered then that would make gay, lesbian, and fetish sex simply forms of complex self and mutual masturbation. For now we will agree that the debate regarding LGBT sex is a topic for another site and other researchers. However, it is an interesting point which makes shoe fetish sex more compatible with an actual sexuality.
Yes, some forms of shoe fetish where the fetishist only uses the shoe for friction or to just pump their penis as simple hand fist masturbation might just be that, masturbation. Although in their mind they may, or may not, have a different view of what is going on. For that person it may be more complex, or it just might feel good as a masturbation tool. Only they will know if this is to be considered masturbation, or not? In any case it is easier to see where someone else, who does not have a shoe fetish, might conclude that it is just masturbation.
However, then there is the more intense shoe fetishist. This shoe fetishist actions do not look like masturbation at all. They prepare their shoe encounter as if spending an evening with long time encounter with a arousing special sexual partner. They might bathe, prepare the bed room, set out any number of shoes they are attracted to, have a drink, or even smoke marijuana as noted in some articles on this site. As they are ready they may even play erotic music as they ease toward the shoes becoming more aroused by just the shoes, not the wearer, nothing but the erotic shoes that they love.
Most on this site who have written in, including myself, prefer very used high quality erotic women's shoes, some prefer men's, but not me, and in common most prefer they be used and have wear lines and toe indents. Most claim to approach the shoes as a lover, they may kiss and fondle any number of shoes as they become more aroused just like any foreplay others can imagine. I know I certainly do. When I am making love to shoes I am deeply in love with the shoes in my collection and in no way the wearer. Although sometimes I imagine the feet that broke in the shoes as the creator of the wear lines.
Most of these fetishists who have also posted here seem to have one goal, and that goal is making passionate love to the shoes and this is clearly beyond masturbation. When the time is right they kiss and fondle one shoe while most climb on top of and penetrate and fuck the other just as I would do when I am fucking woman. So, is it masturbation to make love to sexy erotic shoes? Not for me, it's really about fucking the shoes, that's what I want, and I'm not thinking about the woman. As I climb on top of one and penetrate deep into it while passionately making love and kissing the other I know I'm totally fucking the shoe.
Certainly me and many of this type of shoe fetishist are focused on the shoes or boots and nothing else. They want to make love to the shoes. That's right I said make love to the shoes, the insides, the outsides, and every wear line in between. Most completely make love to the well worn erotic shoes they are fucking in almost every way possible. I know I and others that write to you do. When I orgasm I intentionally wanted to fuck and make total emotional love to the shoe and not some mental image of a person or something else. The kind of love I am engaged in is so emotional and complete that it is not much different than what LGBT lovers describe or a straight couple. The LGBT couples can’t procreate any more than a shoe fetishist wildly loving and fucking a shoe can, but, they love it and it turns them on just the same.
So in my mind, as has been noted many times on this site, I agree LGBT should be changed to LGBTO for lesbian, gay, bi, transgendered, and other, in this case I include shoe fetish. Other includes so much more than questioning. Others might argue other fetish behavior fits this as well. I don't agree but that is for others to decide.
In my view a shoe fetish is much to complex to just call masturbation it is very complex sex for some and if it does not interfere with other parts of their lives it may not be deviant either. That we can leave for people to consider as they look at their individual cases. This site appears to consider shoe fetishists to be bisexual, meaning they can have whatever they call a partner as well as have a great passion for fucking shoes. If they have partners some have found that they can do both, and it seems these partners do exist. When all worlds combine very nicely and for those that call this still deviant it probably is much less so and harder to define.
But, are they foot fetishists replacing a shoe for a foot? In some form perhaps some are, but in reality most that post notes here are probably not. I know I am a full on shoe fetishist and I don't even need to know who owned the shoes to make love to them. I evaluate each used shoe as a lover on its own based on my attraction.
Sure if they were foot fetishists they could search out feet? If this was the case and not sexy erotic shoes they might do so. The fact that a used shoe or boot is well worn may make it even more erotic and real as a form of attractive sex partner, but most want the shoe, but if the shoe is on her feet, so much the better, but it is not the feet alone, and not the woman that makes it so exciting.
Of course you can never tell a partner that when your playing with shoes you are thinking of the shoes and not the partner. Not even the feet of the hottest woman in the world can overpower the attraction for a sexy shoe or boot she might be wearing. I have a partner, but when I see her in great shoes or other women in erotic sexy shoes I see their shoes first and want their shoes just as much and sometimes more than them.
Perhaps many of us see the shoes as vaginas? Maybe we just associate that our shoe fetish feels just as good or better than a vagina when we are making love to the right perfect pair of shoes? Regardless I know I climb on top of and enter the shoe as if they were a vagina and my goodness it is a great and incredible encounter. I guess a gay person perhaps sees anal sex as a great encounter?
Michael P. --- S.C.
Our Site notes;
Mike notes he may be biased because he does have a full love making shoe fetish and he states he also has a happy partner. It is our hope that we will receive some feedback to this letter as some of the points on LGBT behavior not being much different than a shoe fetish is a unique point of view.